Feelings of Being A Married Man.
If I talk about how do I feel being a married man? There are many things and happiness is such a huge that it can’t be told in the few words. It was a day when I was working in the office and a thought came in my mind that doctor gave due date 5th of Jun 2017 to my wife and I have to take leaves on those days and I had already told to my boss those tentative dates, but I was not that cautious enough. Many times I told my wife that I will take delivery of our baby at
home and my wife including my mother and her mother laughed too.
“Left those days when women deliver the baby at home.” My mother-in-law said.
We both were curiously waiting for our baby and my wife and other family members including my parents were thinking that there is a boy coming home. But somewhere in my mind, a feeling of a daughter was holding the nerves of my mind. I remember except me no one was ready to believe that there was a baby girl breathing through intestine of my wife. There was a reason behind that, in our family for many years first was a baby boy and then again a baby boy and third child used to be a girl
When I got married I was so happy choosing a girl by my father and I had told my father that I would love if you take a pride choosing a girl for me. And I also told him that I give you two year for this and if you were not able to find the one then let me handle this. I knew that it was a fair deal. In India, no father wants getting married his son/daughter without permission of the family, especially it happens in love marriage. This is what I love India because we possessed great heritage. So coming back to the point how I had established the connections with my wife? Let me tell you first, though it was arranged marriage, we both fell in love when we saw first time each other. And our wedding date was almost two months late and within those days our bond became so strong and with the strings wrapped around it of all the feelings. So we both had such understanding that it took place so smoothly after we got married.
Expectations and Planning.
The expectations and planning are everyone’s first things after the wedding, none of us that much lazy avoiding it. We both had many expectations too for each other and future planning. We were mad about our planning like every night before bed our plans were changing like the wind shifts in any direction. It was that sudden as the dark cloud on the head disappears in a second and gives sunlight.
My expectations from my wife were as simple as that as like old wives living their life. Neither was I looking for a wife who would be working in office nor simple one who behave and stands in military order. I was the one who wanted a wife who would be so romantic and stay at home, bear children, take care of them and be a good coach for our children’s future so that she/he shouldn’t forget our cultures which were living in both of us exist from many ages. This was what I can say was planning. If I talk about my professional life there was much planning which I will discuss in my next blog.
When I was a child came to know that understanding plays an important role in our life. If you don’t understand your parents then there won’t be a love bong between family. One positive thought would bring much good understanding between us, and I used to do that. Hope and patience would help better in understanding. Thanks to God that he has given me such good understanding parents and I inherited it. I always remember an old saying that ‘a type of seeing you sew on the farm, you will get the same type of the seeds later. And I hope it inherits in my child too.
The Cares and Love.
If you want to survive last longer in any relation do not forget two things that are Love and Care. In my case, as far as in my childhood I was a lovely and cute boy and the love which I got from my family and what I have learned from them was the exceptional experience and those learning would help me survive my relations with my loved ones. The things that had taught me by my parents and the society where I lived was if you smile you will get it to return. In my married life too, if it brings in the notice that these doses have been less then I increase them. When I became a father, the love and care rose spontaneously. There will always be fights between husband and wife and that is required. Only then you understand the value of Love and Care, somewhere you realize and run for it and bring the situations back to normal.
Yelling and Joking.
I learned it from my group of friends when yelling and joking sometimes make an irate friend happy, but it sometimes also worsens the situation. That’s what we need to keep in mind. When there is any fight between us and the responsible one yells and jokes. We had already decided to overcome the anger or come back to happy married life. I knew the anger is the biggest enemy of the human being. It is the only one who spoils the life of the individual.
Hobbies, Like and Dislike.
One thing in like surprised me, that was our hobbies, like and dislike. They were the same. But only one thing brought in the notice that she loves not to bring this in practice and I have done these. Though she helps me in that, her interests are also the same. And sometimes we ended with a fight if the things won’t work properly.